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Most men are either polygamous or promiscuous, except if they lack the courage, wisdom, or resources to engage in the act or those few who are blessed with the art of mastering their excesses. Yes, the concepts of polygamy, single parenting, and divorce have been around since time immemorial. These acts are caused by diverse actions, inactions, and reactions, so many reasons can lead to these acts. But in recent times, our social engagement has increased the acts as stated, but the most unfortunate part is that they are wrongfully implemented by the parties involved. To summarize, young people who have married in the last two decades have experienced more divorces, more single parenting, and have engaged in polygamy without guidance.
Taking a quick look at divorce, we will find that most homes are broken within than experience the right path to divorce, which has further psychologically cripled the couple’s life and, by extension, affected the children’s development. For the divorced ones in our present day, it is more like a “park and goes” process. Unlike proper divorce types from both cultural and religious practice, in which the parties and those who witness their union are informed about the divorce process, these processes engage the couple individually and collectively to ensure they are truly set for divorce rather than just making issues out of the blues. The right standard of divorce are been decided by the customary court, religious bodies, or a panel of elders. That will ensure that both of them are equally accountable for the development of the child, children, or commitment inherited from their union. But, it is observed that we have lost it all too wrongful practices that have made divorced men and women a threat to successful marriages.
Going on a leap into single parenting, it is obvious that our society is overpopulated with lots of single parents who are victims of many sources, and a wrong marriage is one of them. Some are victims of unexpected pregnancies, social engagements, and a lack of proper readiness for marital responsibility, among other things. Children from such sources are referred to as “bastards.” As they grow, they are most likely going to possess some attributes that show they lack parental guidance. Most parents who are involved in single parenting want to either over-pamper their children or leave them without proper care. In turn, these children get to grow up without values, and they can do anything for everything. Single parents sometimes struggle with married couples when their search for a single partner becomes abortive and not so realistic. If the lifestyle of single parenting is not well checked, it can pose a threat to marriages that are doing well.
Polygamy, the utmost solution to societal issues like divorce and single parenting as provided by culture and religious practices, has been blackmailed, misunderstood, and wrongfully practised in recent times. Among all the beliefs about polygamy, the Islamic religion has more structure than any other. It has stated guidelines for the practice, given conditions that must be met before engaging in it, and it has also stressed the restriction on the practice for those who can’t meet the conditions. Polygamy is not meant for everyone. It is a venture for only those who have the courage, wisdom, or resources. A woman is a sacred being that must be treated as such all the time, and a man is a heterogeneous being that is capable of handling multiple events at a time. Most men can be either polygamous or promiscuous.
In a nutshell, if we refused to integrate single parents and divorced people and ensure polygamy is properly practised, marriages and the community at large might be under sage in the long run. With the advent of rapid and uncontrolled social engagements in our society that allow the free mixing of men and women without any checks, peaceful marriages may become extinct sooner than expected. It will also be good to note the uncontrollable number of female gethers against the male genders as a threat to marriages if we don’t regulate our affairs as expected.
To ensure that successful marraiges are protected, we must be ready tocollectively check on the farewell of the divourced, single parents and overpopulated gender for proper integration into the communal family system. It is also important to note that sextual activities are not the bases for polygamy , rather, care for the unmarried who are of age.
Olajide B.O.Y.
Founder, Ayekooto Fact Finder
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